For Men Looking For Men: How To Date On Facebook
Only a fraction of gay men are on the men looking for men sites. Most of them are on Facebook. Do you know how to meet them?
You’re here because you’re either not meeting guys on Facebook or the ones you are meeting make you doubt that God exists. You may be feel a little funny about making the first move on a guy you don’t know, but as you’re about to find out, you can do it in such a subtle way that guys will think they’re chasing you. Welcome to the only gay primer on how to date on Facebook.
Before we get into ways you can meet cute guys on Facebook, a few words. Facebook is an awesome way of meeting single dateable guys. But you can’t use the same techniques you’d use on dating sites like match.com or God forbid, Manhunt.
For one, few people go on Facebook to hook up or date. Yes, gay guys are always up for that. If we could turn Facebook into a gay pickup guide, we’d have done it already. But the truth is, most people don’t join the site to find the love of their life. And even those who do find it hard to navigate it as a dating site.
Here’s why: Imagine putting the kind of dating profile on Facebook that you’d put on Match.com, or eHarmony (“Looking for a soul mate who likes long walks on the beach”). Where your friends, family, office workers, exes, college and high school friends could see it.
Oh. My. God.
Clearly you can’t do that. Facebook is designed to plug you in, not hook you up. The expectation is completely different. People are on it mainly to keep up with friends, find out what’s happening and make new social connections.
That doesn’t mean guys aren’t open (actually, HOPING) to meet a guy (YOU) who’s going to make their socks fly off their feet. In fact, most single gay men want to meet others like them on Facebook. But you have to be inordinately indirect on the site and let’s face it, men are about as subtle as a brick through a windshield.
They instinctively know that they can’t just hit on you, but on the other hand they don’t really know how to go about it. So they try Big Footing it, get pushed back and give up. Or, they simply use Facebook as a way of connecting AFTER they meet a guy they’re interested in.
How To Get A Date On Facebook
My advice isn’t about how to set a trap for a man. It’s about starting a conversation with handsome, generous, funny men who may not know that you live right up the cyber road from them. It’s about inviting them, and in a very real way, giving them permission, to start a dialogue with another beautiful guy–you!
For one, almost everyone gay guy is on Facebook, and that’s not even close to being true about gay dating sites. Second, if you contact any guy for any reason on a dating site, boom! You’re hitting on him. You’re clearly showing him that you’re romantically interested in him. Not true on Facebook. At least, not with the methods you’re about to read.
So, if you have any reservations about being the initiator in getting a Facebook date, throw them out the window because Facebook helps you save face. Let’s face it, whoever emails first on a dating site demonstrates interest.
Whoever speaks first on Facebook is just being friendly.
Meeting cute guys on Facebook requires subtle weapons of mass seduction. Here is a step by step guide to doing it:
Step #1 In Gay Facebook Dating:
Organize Your Pictures In A Way
That Guys Can Instantly See What They’re Looking For.
The first thing a guy is going to do after he gets one of the covert flirts you’re going to send him in Step #5 is look at your pics. His first stop: “ Profile Pictures.” Now, what type of pictures should be in there? And how many should there be?
As a consultant to some major gay dating websites, I noticed that the profiles that did really well used what I call “The Photographic Rule Of Threes.” It’s like guy catnip. We’ll talk about what kind of pictures (and the ideal number) that should be in your profile in a minute.
The bigger problem with pics on Facebook is that most guys jam hundreds of pictures in so many folders that they turn off “impulse lookers.” I mean, who wants to sift through a million pictures of the Addams Family picnic when you just want to see if the guy’s cute?
The answer is creating what I call a special “Guide & Glide” element in the albums section.
Albums are the section where you post pictures from specific activities, special events and vacations. They’re meant strictly for friends, but in my eBook, How To Meet Gay Men On Facebook, I’ll show you a powerful trick that’ll attract guys directly to an Album specifically designed to appeal to them. It starts on page 21.
Back to Profile Pictures.
This is the first place guys are going to look, so you have to limit the number of pictures in there. By “editing” the number and quality of photos, you secretly showcase yourself in the best way possible.
In my eBook, I show you the research on what types of pictures gay guys respond to best, especially on a site like Facebook. I also show you the best things to wear, what you should be doing, and how to use lighting and angles to get the best digital you.
As a bonus, you’ll discover the special photographic tricks that models use to create desire in readers. You’ll also get my recommendations on the best free (or inexpensive) photo editing applications to get the best you out of your photos. It’s all on page 9. By the way, the ebook is only $19.99 and it comes with a 30 day money back guarantee. You can download it here.
Step #2 In Gay Facebook Dating:
Create A Flirt-Friendly Profile
Your Facebook profile needs to do triple-duty: It has to appeal to you, your friends and to guys you’re interested in. And it has to do it in a way that nobody gets shortchanged.
You don’t want your Facebook profile reading like it’s copy/pasted from your dating profile on the men for men sites, but at the same time, it needs a little guy-bait.
It’s critical that you provide conversational hooks for the guys you’ll be contacting. If you don’t make it easy for them to make a comment about some aspect of your profile, you’re going to lose out big–especially from shier guys who may not know how to keep the conversation going.
While the message, poke or comment you’re going to leave on Mr. Man’s page whispers a sense of who you are, your profile screams it. And it has an enormous influence on whether guys contact you or not.
The question is, what the heck should you put in your profile? My ebook, How To Meet Gay Men On Facebook, shows you how to ‘seed’ the profile with guy-bait without it sounding like you’re on Match.com. It tells you exactly what to write and how to write it. Follow my six step formula for building profiles and you’re not going to believe the responses you get. It’s step #6 that makes emailing you irresistible.
I also show you a dozen cool Facebook tricks that’ll bedazzle your profile and wall postings with all sorts of interesting symbols, images, font sizes and more. They’ll make you unforgettable. It’s on page 40.
As a bonus, I reveal the secret websites that professional writers use to create original material. You’ll get the step-by-step formula for using these sites to create powerful, original screen names, headlines and profiles. It’s incredibly fun and creative and it all starts on page 66.
Step #3 In Gay Facebook Dating:
Find Your Type Of Guy
Okay, so you’ve got the perfect pictures, a profile that’s a man-magnet, now what? How do you find gay people on Facebook? You could sit back and watch guys hit on you. The problem with just leaving it at that is that you have no control over who hits on you. If you want a Facebook date, you have to exert that control by searching for guys you like and launching the flirting strategies I’ll talk about later.
Now, you can’t search Facebook the way you can a dating site–by age, city or stats. So you have to get creative. In my ebook, I show you five sure-fire methods of finding the kind of guys that turn you on– including ways to find somebody you’ve met offline, even if you don’t know his last name! How To Meet Gay Men On Facebook downloads as a PDF file. You don’t need a Kindle or iPad to read it. You just view/print right from your PC. You can download the $19.99 ebook with a 30 day money back guarantee here.
Step #4 In Gay Facebook Dating:
Engage Him In Clever Ways
You see a profile that makes you go, “Hubba Hubba!” How do you approach him? With a simple “Hello?” Please. You need to start a fun, innocent conversation and slowly build attraction. I’ll show you how to make comments on his status updates and photos that’ll intrigue him to the point that he HAS TO check out your pics and profile.
I’ll also show you how to post irresistible observations on his Wall that guarantee a fun, on-going conversation. And I’ll show you “poking” strategies that turn into flirting opportunities. How To Meet Gay Men On Facebook costs $19.99 and it comes with a 30 day money back guarantee. Download it now and use it tonight.
Step #5 In Gay Facebook Dating:
Get Him To Gladly Give You His Number
Your goal is to get off email or chat and step it up to a phone call. Why? Because you can’t tell if you like somebody by typing at them. The question is, how do you transition from Facebook to phone without sounding like you’re rushing things? In my eBook, I give you over a dozen examples so you can copy/paste them into your Facebook exchanges.
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Does My Formula To Meet Gay Guys On Facebook Work?
Don’t take my word for it. Take the word of people who actually bought the book:
I started changing things per your specs and WOW! Almost immediately, I got great results! Your photo posting tactics has totally changed the game for me. I’ve seen a huge spike in the number of good looking guys that respond to my pokes and comments. Thank you for such an insightful, easy-to-read manual. It’s made a huge difference in my life.”
- Joshua, 36, Gainesville
I was convinced that meeting gay guys on Facebook wasn’t working for me because, well, I’m just not all that good-looking. But as soon as I used your system, BAM! I mean, seriously, I’m all poked out! Your formula for gay Facebook dating really works!”
-Stephen, 27, Atlanta
Greetings from Downunder! Now that I’ve bought your guide I see why I never met new guys on Facebook. I was doing everything wrong! Thanks for all the dates I’m getting on Facebook. The flirting techniques are incredible!
-Linton, 42, Sydney
Don’t Spend Another Night On Facebook Without Knowing How To Meet & Attract Your Type Of Guy.
Excellent! Imagine how confident you’ll feel the next time you go on Facebook. You’ll have the confidence and the skills to attract, approach and ultimately meet the guys that turn you on. No more wasting hours on end fighting off the flakes and the freaks on the men looking for men sites.
Meet The Author
I’m Mike Alvear. I’m Manhunt’s former “Cruise Director” and a consultant for other gay dating websites. I also co-hosted HBO’s The Sex Inspectors and authored three mainstream-published books, including the gay advice book, Men Are Pigs But We Love Bacon. I’m also a blogger for Huffington Post and a syndicated gay relationships columnist. For pictures and videos, check out the “About Mike” tab.
I wrote How To Meet Gay Men On Facebook for guys just like you–guys who are tired of the gay dating sites and plainly see that most good looking gay guys are on Facebook, not Manhunt or Match.com. I really appreciate the time you’ve taken to stop by and soak in all this information. Order the eBook here and let me know how it works for you. Remember, it comes with a 30 day money back guarantee. If you don’t like it, just email me at info @ mikealvear dot com and get a no-questions-asked refund.
P.S. How To Meet Gay Guys On Facebook is a step-by-step manual that helps you meet and attract hot gay men on Facebook. You’ll discover ingenius ways of using photos, profiles and Facebook-specific flirting techniques to build the kind of attraction that results in a date. You won’t find anything like it at your local gay bookstore, Border’s, Amazon or anywhere online. You can only buy it here. Stop ‘settling’ for the guys you’re meeting on the men seeking men sites–learn how to attract hotter guys on Facebook and turn them into your next date.
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